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Why I want to talk of resilience??
It’s always been present in my life and I think resilience has been
the main tool that helped me to “survive”!
This is the reason I try to reinforce it in people I work with.
In the following situations children were supported from resilience:
Mummy and Daddy left for Italy, they are gonna stay away many, many
days, Nanny is staying with us. My little sister (8 months old) is
crying all day long. (3 years old girl)
My mum always gets drunk in the morning, also on holiday then she
goes away. One night there was a thunderstorm, I was scared but she
wasn't there. I woke up my little sister and we look for her
everywhere, we had our nightgown on and we forgot the umbrella,
after many hours she came back (5 years old boy)
I saw my mother and father hitting each other. Blood from my mum's
neck, dad was furious. (7 yeard old boy)
Daddy was yelling “my wife, my wife!” I went to see what was
happening. He was in front of the bathroom's door, she was inside
and wasn't answering. I called an ambulance, the psychiatrist and I
waited for the firemen to arrive. My sister and Rodrigo, my dog,
were with me, down in the street, waiting. (12 years old girl)
I was fat, everybody at school made fun of me (11 years old boy)
Every day, all over the world, children have to do with similar
situations. There are also devorce, illness, depression, hunger,
war, poverty. Whether these life experiences strenghten or lacerate
them depends on their resielence.
think that resielence is the capacity to deal and overcome negative
moments of our life without creating a big trauma in us.
While I was involved in difficult situations I always had in mind 3
verbs that helped me: I have, I am, I can.
I HAVE – people that love me, that support me, that give me
boundaries, that take care of me when I'm sick
I AM – loved, grateful to do nice things, honest, responsible
for what I do, sure that everything will be ok
I CAN – talk with somebody, find solutions, controll myself
if I think I am doing something too dangerous, find somebody to help
me for emergencies.
During my life I've always met an adult that facilitated my
resilience: nonna Wilma, Daddy and Mummy, Auntie Gwen, Zia Marussia,
tata Emma, Nicoletta, my drama teacher........they have been
essential for my life!
What can we do to promote resielence in children?i?
Tell them in words that
we love them
hold, cuddle them,
suggest ingthem to count to 10 before reacting, remindind them
encourage them to be
independent and help them to be aware of their feelings
tell them the day
schedule sharing feelings and thoughts
thinking and appreciation of others
help them to understand
the consequences of their actions
give them clear rules
suppot them in